Instability to do with love and money – Venus Issues

Whilst out and about locally last year I met a middle aged woman at a place I frequented where I knew the owner who had an antique shop.This woman worked for him restoring furniture. She’s a Scorpio rising with a Leo sun, she breathed new life into old shit -Scorpio and made it look nice – Leo.

It turned out that this year has been tough for her, as she’s hit 40, her natal Uranus in Scorpio in her first house got opposed by transit Uranus which is happening in her 7 th house of partners. He asked her was she happy with the status quo between her and “others”.Well the answer was “NO”. She hadn’t been for years, her husband was a typical Saturn type. He worked hard and paid the bills but was cold emotionally and uncommunicative.She needed some attention, some loving, some fun and some appreciation- she is a Leo after all.

He got the Uranus shock of his life when he found out she was having it off with the kitchen fitter,who was working on their house(he was an Aquarian- her Leo suns polar opposite). Her natal Uranus had done a Scorpio – sexual taboo-her husband got this by transit, when it came into her seventh house, and now he is her open enemy.They are now getting divorced, very acrimoniously – Venus in Scorpio retrograde btw…and still in its shadow…

It seems she ‘married’ her father, as in, her father was a religious zealot, who when she was a child used to quote from the bible often and castigate her with religious type sermons designed to fill her with fear of hell and damnation in order to get her to behave. Her husband is a carbon copy with this regard, not only that, he demands that everyone in the house carries his same view with his religious ideals, that’s a thirteen year old, a twelve year old and twins of eight.

Her own father had had no time or interest for her mother in any shape or form and likewise she remembers her mother doing all the child related jobs and all the nurturing that children need – Ditto now. I’m not saying she is innocent but who is? Things could have been finished better. Anyway the husband – the one who is very sanctimonious is now paranoid- he believes that she is going to get the children.He does not want to sell the house and share the assets.

Tell me about the Uranus in Taurus opposition with Venus retrograde in Scorpio that’s been on and off a good while now..he does not acknowledge her – Venus- contribution.Whilst he is ready to see his own monetary-Venus- contribution,he also has issues with her sharing his pension pot..more Venus retrograde in Scorpio btw..he thinks children rear themselves, clean the house themselves, wash their own clothes,drive themselves to and from school ..He only ever allowed her to do one role; The submissive wife. Interesting, they were married for 14 years (Saturn). Then along came Uranus and he brought about a rebellion.The problems he has with Venus (the Libra) is there’s no equality, no balance and no peace or harmony, he simply does not know how to relate, that’s to her, his soon to be ex wife nor their children. He doesn’t know as he’s never seen a good example. Why I hear you say? Well when he was a kid his mother left his father taking away the two boys, him and his twin brother. She succeeded in keeping the father away from the twins. Mummy it seemed had been very controlling. And the relationship had been lost for those boys with their father.

So there we have it,  this is why he’s paranoid about ‘her getting the kids’. This is also why he’s plotting to possibly run away with the kids to where his mother now lives with her fifth husband. They have money – Venus – and mummy hasn’t changed a great deal, she is still quite happy to bribe and coerce both him as her ‘grown up child’ and his offspring also. (I don’t believe he will do this if he gets the outcome he wants- that’s plan A.)

 The Universe is conspiring, as he was the second born twin he has ‘mummy karma’ and therefore is supposed to redeem karma for her, as it passed to him in his DNA (as she hadn’t redeemed it). Needless to say he’s too unconscious to notice, can’t see the story and how it’s coming back right now for resolution – as he’s on his Chiron return- he’s getting a chance to re visit his wound and see if he can possibly heal it, he’s had the experience himself so why would he remove his children from the area and put them through the same sorry scenario his own mother had brought to him with her control issues to do with her ex husband,his father. Well we are back to him not learning how to relate, having seen no examples of Libra in his own upbringing he’s unable to consider sharing the children. As well as that he is unable to see it’s the same scenario. By that I mean his mother had took the kids, and kept them away from his father, so he’s paranoid about her, doing the same to him. She’s not a bit interested in doing that, he’s forgotten she’s a Leo, so she needs time to play, herself, away from her children.Therefore he can rest assured as she will welcome him taking his turn with their children as she will want to play. He can imagine only the one scenario, his scenario. In that it was wrong he didn’t get to see his dad so is concerned about his kids losing him, their dad, but has forgot – never made conscious that the kids/him as a kid had needed both (that’s if they still have both). He thinks having no mother is ok,as long as he is there. Needless to say, of course I met her, in the antique shop, the universe had transpired that I am here ,in her life as she may need me, a fellow Scorpio rising, to be around when (if) he does carry out plan B. I can help you see, as the same sorry scenario happened to me..I had also lost my eldest daughter, who was likewise coerced and manipulated during childhood by her father who was the same character type as her husband-narcissistic (Like his mother before him). 

If you have read my book you will know that it didn’t turn out so well, as my daughter had had a mental breakdown as my ex didn’t – (wasn’t able to) relate to her. I have in my natal chart an aspect that her husband and me both share. Its a Ceres- Moon opposition. His is over the Capricorn/Cancer axis. Whereas mine is in Aries/Libra.My mother – Moon was also involved, there was a betrayal as my mother did not let me know my daughter was visiting her, when I could not get any access to her. His mother is also ‘in the mix’. So unfortunately with this aspect in my own experience there is one partner who is prepared to share – (Libra) that was me, whilst the other end of the opposition won’t share (Aries). Ceres is known to bring the harvest, but also the famine – I can vouch for this. It’s to do with mothering, like the Moon, but also about nurturing as well as pain and loss. In Capricorn it’s about him being the authority opposing Cancer,that’s her as the mother. Let’s hope for all their sakes, that’s him as well as their children that he can accept things and they can both move on.